I have a thirteen year old who loves technology. Since I finished working to have the boys my interest in it does'nt really go past my laptop.
I don't use a mobile phone.
There have been some heated discussions between Bell and I lately about computer time, mobile and Ipod use.
A couple of years ago Bell's dad who lives in another city bought Bell a mobile phone. I was'nt happy about it at the time. Her interest in it has diminished somewhat due to the fact that I won't buy her top up cards and she is incredibly tight fisted when it comes to opening up her own purse to top up. If she were out and about alot on her own or with friends I would top it up for her.
Next came an Ipod. She loves it and is currently eyeing up an Ipad. She has been saving Christmas and Birthday money and despite wanting an Ipad - after much debate, she is going to buy a laptop as Bell's school is changing over to E-learning. She is in heaven over this fact. Most of her schoolwork and homework is done online.
I have lots of rules in our house when it comes to tech time and use. It has been a real sore point between Bell and I but I think we have finally (ok, its a work in progress) come to some kind of neutral ground.
* No mobile phones in the bedroom after lights out.
* No Ipod in the bedroom after lights out.
* Week day computer use is for school work only.
*You tube and TV on demand is for the weekend only.
* No Facebook.
* No Instagram or Twitter.
As we don't watch TV, Bell has taken to downloading some favourite TV programs that she loves. I'm happy with this, but it is for the weekend only. It also is a bit kinder on our Broadband account as Mr H likes to download a few programs too.
Although I am on Facebook, Bell's Facebook account is no longer, due to things she was "liking" - inappropriate pages that friends were liking. Kids this age are like sheep. I am very unlikely to have one for my blog. It just feels like another thing to log into.
There are huge problems with online bullying that are linked to Facebook etc. I don't feel that she is at an age where she could cope emotionally with it. We had a bit of a break through moment this week. It went like this:
Bell - "I'm glad you stopped me going on Facebook. I can concentrate on my dancing and school work".
Me - "Really"?
Bell - "Yeah, I was talking to Aunty D and she said when Sienna is older she won't be allowed on Facebook either".
Thank you Aunty D, if only it had been that easy!
And no Instagram or Twitter. I'm not on either. So I can't monitor it.
Reading back on this it looks quite strict. But I can only protect her for so long. And I feel this is a good basis in which to do that.
I know it must be frustrating for her some days. I hope in the long run she will thank me for being such a Nanna when it comes to Technology.
Do you have similar issues in your house? What are your house rules when it comes to computer use etc?